I had the pleasure of participating in one of the ATC Dads’ network gatherings last week and was reminded of the importance to ‘walk in the shoes of others’ before making judgements. This notion of empathy can cause considerably stressful times to appear more manageable when an alternate perspective is presented. This reality is the inspiration behind our College Service Program and the idea of being a part of something bigger than ourselves; the idea of being an active member of a community. I encourage all boys to utilise some of their down time during the upcoming Easter break to get out and make a difference to those around us. Education is as much about the heart, as what it is the head.
I encourage all families to make the most of their Easter holiday period, and share this sacred time together. I read the post below on social media recently which made me reflect on my own practises and priorities.
SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”
DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?”
SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “That’s really none of your business. Why do you ask?”
SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”
DAD: “If you must know, I make $50 an hour.”
SON: “Oh. (With his head down).
SON: “Daddy, can I please borrow $20?”
DAD: “REALLY?! If you’re asking to borrow money for some silly toy or game, you can just march yourself straight to your room to think about why you’re being so selfish. I work hard everyday to provide for this family, and this is the thanks I get?”
The little boy went quietly to his room and shut the door.
The dad sat down and started getting even angrier about his son’s questions. “How dare he ask question like that just to get some money?” he stewed.
After an hour, the dad calmed down, and started to think: “Maybe there was something he really needed the $20 for? He doesn’t ask for money often…”
So, the dad went to his son’s door and opened it.
DAD: “Are you asleep, son?”
SON: “No daddy, I’m awake”.
DAD: “I’ve been thinking, and maybe I was too hard on you earlier. It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $20 you asked for.”
The little boy sat straight up, smiling.
SON: “Oh, thank you daddy!”
Then, reaching under his pillow, the boy pulled out some crumpled-up dollar bills. When the dad saw the boy already had money, he started getting angry again as the little boy slowly counted out his money and looked up at his father.
DAD: “Why do you want more money if you already have some?”
SON: “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do. Daddy, I have $50 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.”
The father was crushed. He put his arms around his little son, and begged for his forgiveness through a stream of tears.
Just a reminder to all who are work so hard in life to not let time slip through our fingers without dedicating special time with those who matter most.
If we disappear tomorrow, the company we may work for could replace us in a matter of days…. but, loved ones we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives, having only precious memories to hold. Priorities.
Mr Matt Warr, Assitant Dean of Formation